The Mayhem Ball isn't just an event—it's a statement. And the first statement you'll make is the one you walk in wearing. The dress code is formal attire, and we mean it. This is the night to pull out your best, or better yet, to debut something new.
Whether you're a seasoned black-tie veteran or this is your first formal affair, this guide will make sure you arrive looking like you belong.
The way you show up tells everyone what kind of night you're here for.
Mr MayhemFor the Gentlemen
A formal event starts with a strong foundation. The suit is non-negotiable. The details are where you separate yourself. Black men have always set the standard for formal style—from the sharp lines of Ozwald Boateng to the unapologetic boldness of Dapper Dan. This is your moment to carry that legacy.
The Suit
A well-fitted dark suit is the gold standard. Black, midnight navy, or deep charcoal. Two-piece or three-piece—both work. The fit matters more than the brand. Slim, tailored, and clean lines. If it doesn't hug the shoulders and taper at the waist, get it altered before May 23rd. A custom or made-to-measure suit from a Black-owned tailor? Even better. Support the culture while you step into it.
The Shirt
Crisp white dress shirt. Period. A French cuff with subtle cufflinks elevates the whole look. If white feels too safe, a very pale cream or light blue can work—but nothing patterned, nothing loud. Let the suit do the talking.
The Shoes
Oxford dress shoes or patent leather are the move. Black or deep burgundy. Clean, polished, no scuffs. Your shoes say more about you than your watch does. Loafers are acceptable if they're sleek and dark. No sneakers. Not even "dressy" ones.
The Details
A tie or bowtie. A pocket square that complements but doesn't match your tie exactly. A quality watch—this is the night to let the Cartier or AP breathe. Subtle cologne—something warm and woody, never overpowering. Tom Ford Oud Wood, Creed Aventus, or Le Labo Santal 33 are safe bets. If you wear a chain, keep it under the shirt or tastefully minimal. A lapel pin or boutonnière adds a level of intentionality that separates good from unforgettable.
For the Ladies
The Mayhem Ball is your runway. This is the night for that dress you've been saving, or the excuse to find one worth remembering. Black women have always understood the assignment when it comes to formal fashion—this night is no exception.
The Dress
Floor-length gowns, midi cocktail dresses, or tailored jumpsuits—all are welcome. Rich fabrics like silk, satin, velvet, or lace. Black is always elegant, but deep jewel tones (emerald, burgundy, sapphire) make a statement under the lights. Gold and champagne tones photograph beautifully and complement melanin like nothing else. If you go bold with color, keep the accessories minimal. And if you're supporting a Black designer—Hanifa, LaQuan Smith, Cushnie—you'll have the room's attention before you say a word.
The Shoes
Heels if you can, but comfort matters—especially on a night meant for dancing. Strappy stilettos, pointed-toe pumps, or elegant block heels all work. Metallics (gold, silver) pair beautifully with dark dresses. Just make sure you can last the whole night in them.
The Accessories
Statement earrings or a delicate layered necklace—pick one focal point. A clutch bag, not a crossbody or tote. Hair styled with intention—whether it's a sleek updo, soft waves, braids pinned up, a fresh silk press, or your natural crown shaped to perfection. Nails done, fragrance on—Baccarat Rouge, Good Girl, or whatever your signature is. Confidence at maximum.
The Do's and Don'ts
Some things shouldn't need to be said. But just in case:
Do
- Get your outfit tailored
- Polish your shoes
- Coordinate with your date
- Dress like you mean it
- Add one signature detail
- Plan your outfit in advance
Don't
- Show up in jeans
- Wear sneakers or sandals
- Go too casual "but it's expensive"
- Overdo the accessories
- Wear heavy cologne/perfume
- Leave the tags on (we see you)
You don't have to spend a fortune. You have to look like you thought about it.
The Mayhem Standard
At the end of the day, this isn't about rules—it's about respect. Respect for the occasion, respect for the host, and respect for yourself. Black excellence isn't just a hashtag—it's a standard. When you walk into The Mayhem Ball, you're walking into a room full of people who decided to show up at their best. Match that energy.
The night will be photographed. The moments will be remembered. The fits will be talked about. Make sure you look like someone who was supposed to be there.
We'll see you on May 23rd. Come correct.